What Does Living On My Own Terms Mean?


What does living on my own terms mean for you? This is a fairly open-ended question designed to elicit an uninhibited answers. Don’t think too hard or get caught up in the operational details of how to do things.

For instance, if you said;  “I want to start my own business and live in a different city” don’t worry (at this stage) about what type of business, how you will run your business, overcome obstacles, when will you live or how you will pay for things? 

Living life on your terms is synonymous with achieving happiness as defined by only you

This includes the ability to secure enough income, usually in a non traditional manner that is inline with your values, hopes and personal aspirations. – How you spend and earn your energy, time and money.

In contrast you could end up living life on someone else’s terms which would make you an accessory to their goals and aspirations — be they personal or business. 

  • A word of caution; This is not about quitting your job or starting a business. Self employment isn’t for everyone. It is conceivable to be employed within an organization and live life on your own terms. Not everyone is cut out to be an entrepreneur. Sadly some entrepreneurs are miserable!
  • If you have a partner then I recommend both of you complete these exercises independently then compare answers. Both sets of results could present challenges or opportunities for your relationship, especially if you both come up with different answers. If one spouse wants to stay home, raise children and take night courses while the other wants live down south for the winter, then the two of you had better start communicating on the potential impact of having divergent goals.

You are not being selfish you’re being fair to yourself and those you love dearly

Spoiler alert: Living life on your own terms does not make you selfish. It makes you authentic.

You know how people skip reading terms and conditions? Well, some do the same with their life. In fact, you have to come up with your PERSONAL terms and conditions, and not just read someone else’s. Living life that matters means precisely that – defining purpose and happiness on your own terms.

Dan Trepanier

Certified, Personal Wellness Trainer

Action Questions on 5 Core Human Needs


I want you to contemplate these five power questions over the coming days. The ask yourself IS THERE A VOID SOMEWHERE and WHAT CAN I DO TO FILL THAT VOID? 


What can/are you do/doing to develop your mind, body or spirit today/this week?


Did you freely and authentically express to others something positive that has significant meaning in your life today?


Did you contribute TIME, TALENT or TREASURE to someone in need today?


Do you feel connected to persons, places or things whereby safety, honesty and expression are real?


Do you have a grounded sense of belonging, as an equal