LEARN To Be An Assertive Gay Man!

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Assertive people fight for what’s important while acknowledging the other person’s perspective and feelings.

What Is Assertiveness?

  • My feelings, thoughts and convictions are as important as yours!
  • As Madonna would say “Express yourself, don’t repress yourself”. Assertiveness gives you a healthier connection to yourself and those around you.

Why you should be more assertive?

Assertive communication is a beneficial style of communication in any relationship, especially romantic ones.

Examples of Assertive Communication

  • When your boss wants to finish your sentence instead of you, is it because the sentence is so tasty? Listen, it is your sentence. You have cooked it on a slow fire. If someone interrupts you while you’re speaking, continue expressing yourself.
  • You are sitting in front of the computer working and you partner cranks up the volume on the TV. You say Darling, your music is a little too distracting. Could you turn down the volume a little bit?
  • When you re-assert your position to make sure your heard. Don’t worry, when you repeat yourself you are still staying in that non-aggressive zone. Use this technique when your someone is tirelessly demanding something from you.
  • When someone does the opposite of what was agreed to. In these situations, the best thing is to acknowledge contradictions. Ask questions to find the reasons why they’ve broken their end of the agreement.

Don’t let your communication style stop you from doing what matters to live and work on your own terms.

Being passive will get you nowhere. Eventually, the silent role will make you passive-aggressive.

Passive-aggressive behaviour is when you say one thing and do another. Or express your self in an indirect manner. –I am pissed off at you so I am going to slam the door. Or I don’t have the courage to tell you I don’t want to go out clubbing so I will say I am not feeling well to get out of going.

Do you hear what I am rolling my eyes about? Do not think standing up for yourself and speaking up is making you aggressive? You need to come out of your shell before your pearl becomes a lost earring. Other have ears and they need to listen to what you have to say.

When you say YES to others, make sure you aren’t saying NO to yourself. Saying YES to yourself requires certain level of maturity and capability to reject something or someone. If you stay silent on an issue consider that perhaps silent because you are afraid of rejection.

On the upside you speaking up in an honest and direct way might just end up getting you that respect you need.

An Interesting Read

https://www.gayline.org.nz/social-skills-gay-men-making-friends

Do YOU Need to Develop ASSERTIVE Communication SKILLS?

 

"Being assertive is to express your thoughts feelings and needs in an honest and direct way."

Dan Trepanier

Certified , Personal Wellness Trainer