I recall in my early 20’s thinking the year 2020 was afar in the future lifetime away. Turning 60 in 2020 freaks me out because I look and act decades younger — I refuse to grow up! I remember my 30’s and 40’s like they were yesterday

It really seems like the older I get, the faster time passes.

Here’s my new decade list of comforting beliefs. Have you crafted yours?

  • No, I don’t have to post my stuff on social media or wish you Happy Birthday because Facebook tells me to.
  • No, I don’t have to dress up to go to that party.
  • I don’t have to prove anything or debate my point.
  • No, I don’t have to work in a traditional job even though financially, that makes the most sense.
  • I smile because I genuinely want to smile.
  • I’m polite and respectful, not because I have to be, but because it’s the right thing to do.
  • I can swear and say fuck 100 times a day around adults.
  • I can responsibly smoke weed walking down the street (it’s now legal in Canada).
  • I can be married and have a boyfriend on an equal footing (as long as both parties agree).
  • I can choose when I want and sleep when I don’t. In fact, I don’t set the alarm most days, and every day feels like Friday to me.
  • I randomly have 2-hour naps in the middle of the day while everyone is at work — It’s about managing my energy to create and connect better.
  • I can leave cold Toronto winters and spend two months at a beach house in Brazil.
  • I’m a man who prefers to sit when I pee as this makes it easier to text.
  • I achieved my number one bucket list item and bought a cool sailboat to spend most of my summer days on. (AKIYA)
  • I do what I choose because I’m well-aware of the pros and cons of my intent and actions.

I do what matters to LIVE, LOVE, LEARN a proud life on my own terms, and the terms of those near and dear to me.


  • I don’t harm other living things (except swatting mosquitos and spiders).
  • I treat people with respect.
  • I live in my financial and emotional needs.
  • I honour my commitments and chuckle at my lack of obligations.
  • At times I’m painfully honest but do so with lots of empathy and support.
  • I pay my bills, and if I love you, I will gladly help you pay yours (when I can).
  • I sacrifice and suffer for those who would do the same for me.
  • I assist strangers, as any good samaritan would.
  • I love silent farting on elevators to get a good laugh out of my friends despite the fact my rude behaviour pisses my partner off every time.
  • I’ve learned to get comfortable being slightly uncomfortable, knowing that’s what drives personal growth.
  • I’ve made epic mistakes that I don’t think I’ll ever get over. Those painful learnings are thankfully overshadowed by the more wise decisions I’ve made over the years.
  • I rarely make the same mistake three times in a row. But rest assured, I make lots!
  • I know that all good and bad things do come to an end.
  • Who, how, when, why, and with whom I love is my business, not yours!

My definitions of Personal Success

I know I am successful and most joyful when…

  • I know I am successful when I am in the presence of people who appreciate me, and I understand them.
  • I know I am most happy when I HAVE a vibrant sense of CONNECTION, CONTRIBUTION, SIGNIFICANCE, BELONGING, GROWTH, and IMPACT.
  • I am at my best when I enjoy my creativity.
  • I make the most impact when I share my positive energy with the community (as I define)
  • I am a spiritual being having human experiences.

Basically, at close to 60 years of age, I have the luxury of doing what fits my perception of reality.

How cool and grateful for a position am I in?

I welcome the unpredictable balance of my soon to be golden years, despite the profound misguided fear that I might not age gracefully. — Dan Trepanier

What’s your 2020 story? I’d love to hear it!

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Originally published at https://dantrep.com/the-2020-attitude-that-serves-me-well/