Lies You Tell Yourself to Avoid Change
So why do we prefer to dwell in the comforts of routine and console our yearning for better by telling ourselves lies?
Your life does not get better by chance – it gets better by change
Let’s obliterate this counter-productive deceit and take our first steps towards a happier, healthier mind. First, lets accept the lies we are telling ourselves. Secondly, lets rehash that and replace it with the truth. Finally, lets use that truth to gain a solution from the problem the lie was preventing us from solving.
So let’s obliterate this counter-productive deceit and take our first steps towards a happier, healthier mind. First, lets accept the lies we are telling ourselves.
Secondly, lets rehash that and replace it with the truth. Finally, lets use that truth to gain a solution from the problem the lie was preventing us from solving.
4 Lies 4 Solutions
Lie – “I’ll do it later”
Truth – No you won’t!
Solution – You tell yourself you’ll sign up to the gym on Monday to justify a mammoth binge weekend in front of the TV, surrounded by ice cream and pizza boxes. You convince yourself you’ll apply for new jobs as soon as you find the time. You dupe yourself into thinking your diet really does start tomorrow. Every lie like this that you tell yourself adds up, until your life becomes one huge postponement of proclivity. Until you are honest with yourself about this, you’ll remain living in the land of tomorrow.
Sign up to the gym today, take fifteen minutes to apply for new jobs instead of your usual fifteen surfing the gossip sites, begin that much promised diet today! This way, you’ll have a much happier tomorrow.
Lie – “It’s too hard”
Truth – Really?!
Solution – As the internet meme goes, “If Britney can get through 2007, you can get through today”.
If Richard Branson had thought “it’s too hard” every time one of his businesses ventures failed, would he be sitting on the lucrative empire he is now? Of course not.
Think of your personal life change that’s just “too hard” to do. Starting your own business? Getting out of your small town? Ending your emotionally draining relationship? It’s easy to forget that people have done and do those things every day. Whatever you’re wanting to do, but are preventing yourself from doing, has been done before. You are not a pioneer; the road has been paved – follow it.
Want your own business – plan, research, save, borrow, find inspirations that have carved similar paths to the one you’re wanting to sculpt. Want to get out of your small town? Don’t allow your creature comforts to deceive you – the big city isn’t so scary, and it’s brimming with opportunity should you expose yourself to it. Are you wanting to be free of your dead weight relationship? Cut it dead before it does the same to your emotional health.
Lie – “I don’t have the resources available”
Truth – Become resourceful.
Solution – Having the ability to find new and clever ways to overcome difficulties isn’t something assigned to a privileged few – we all have this ability.
What is the resource you are lacking in? Money? Time? Then you need to find ways to replenish enough of the missing resource in order to aid that positive change.
As humans, we are already pretty resourceful; think of the first caveman to light a fire.
Want more money? Work overtime. Not available? Sell your skills – writing, graphic design, dog walking. Have no skills? I don’t believe that – but there are plenty of ways to learn and acquire new skill sets. It may be a slow burner, but you’re on your journey to positive change.
Lie – “I’m set in my ways”
Truth – You aren’t dead.
Solution – So you’ll always be fifteen pounds overweight, you’ll always be shy when meeting new people, you’ll always live in the town you do now. Change can’t possibly be on the cards for you, because you’re set in your ways – and always have been.
The truth is, unless you’re a statue six feet under, you can never be set in your ways. Treading water isn’t a part of a healthy person’s spiritual itinerary, so being set in your ways isn’t an option. As comforting as what you know is, nothing ever really grows there.
Why will you always be overweight? Why do you accept shyness as a factor that will always remain? For what reason will you never leave your hometown? I can bet every one of these questions will be answered with one emotion in mind – fear.
“honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom” – Thomas Jefferson
What LIE have you turned into a solution?
What I am offering you is an opportunity to start a conversation and give more thought to what's exciting and calling you to make a shift to live and work on your own terms. Dan Trepanier