There’s a Cute Guy On The Other Boat!


There’s a Cute Guy On The Other Boat!

So I’m sitting on the tender going to Toronto Island Marina where I dock my boat. A tender is a private boat that takes people back and forth from landslide to the marina.

In the corner of my eye I notice this rather cute young guy smiling at me. My gay brain begins to assume his cruising me.

Could it be that he’s just a very friendly fellow boater? Is he looking for a random neighbourly connection?

Spontaneous chats among strangers is commonplace at marinas. Everyone's friendly until we go ‘on-the-hard’ (lingo for taking your boat out of the water and placing it on a cradle or blocks)

Still …. my ‘'gaydar' was in overdrive and I typically hate missing a missing an opportunity to befriend a a fellow team mate (that’s code for someone that plays you the seam sexual orientation team as you) — and has nothing to do with boating — eh!

Having team mates within close shagging proximity to each others vessels is akin to playing with fire (metaphorically speaking) - especially on those long chilly nights.

It’s particularly challenging as a gay man to ‘befriend’ other men because one must always be careful to not offend, get punched in the face (you fag) or simply freak the straight guy out when he discovers your actually hitting on him — ewwwwww….

The funny thing is straight guys have been hitting on women since the beginning of time and seem to think that that kind of behaviour is acceptable — and routinely desired. Despite most women feeling uncomfortable when a guy starts hitting on them. It’s even more offensive when a guy accidentally hits on a non-gay.

A part of me wants to say to these guys — oh hell get over yourself I’m not into hitting on straight guys that I now are straight. And since I assume everyone is gay unless you tell me otherwise, its easy to misread someone.

Now if your gay there’s a whole different ball game…..

So anyways this fellow boater was defiantly into hyper flirt drive. He is also a tad effeminate (yea don’t crucify me for stereotyping.) I know being effeminate is not a prerequisite for sexual orientation)

Wouldn’t you know it — this guy has a boat right across from mine. I’m surprised because I’ve never seen him before and this is his second year at the Marina.

So I wave and walk over to his boat to start chatting him up — all boating small talk. Then out of the blue he brings up his ‘girlfriend’ in the conversation.

Oh hell now I’m confused and feel like an idiot— straight guys are not typically this overly friendly and flirty with other guys (minus the exceptions). Could he be a big closet case, or bisexual. — whatever …… and why does it matter anyway?

After about 15 min of small talk at the dock I thank him for the chat and move on totally confused and not sure what to make of the situation.

The odd thing is that I did not have an agenda — at least not on a conscious level — eh!

Perhaps I am reading just way to much into it…..

At 56 years of age I tread lightly in these situations and always weigh on the side of respect and caution.

Upon further reflection I realize that all I’m looking for is another touch point to make a cool connection

What about you… have you ever been is a similar situation and how do you deal?

Do you think something else is going on in this story?

Dan xoxox