9 Reasons to Plan Sex With Your Special Man
Most of us are aware how sexual attraction fades over the time, but few do anything about it.
When you meet a hot guy with whom you want to become more intimate, passion bursts into flame. It seems like your body is on fire.
As the time goes by, you swim deep into the waters of a relationship that slowly douses that fire.
Long term boyfriends expect sexual acts to be wild and spontaneous. They want it to happen assuming your both horny. Only when the right moment happens. Yes, those moments of great mutual desire exist at the beginning. As soon as they become habits, they lose it’s stimulating and challenging ingredient.
9 Reasons Planned Sex Brings Fire Into Relationships
1) Plan when you are going to have an honest sex talk.
Those who think that talk is cheap don’t know how expensive silence can be. Speaking about sexual preferences should be a top relationship priority.
2) Sex full of passion and joy with can last many years.
Even If you have a busy career or decide to have sex with other people via an open relationship.
All you need is a little bit of planning. A busy life may mean your sex life on schedule – and thats ok! Knowing when something pleasurable is going to happen can be comforting for some people.
3) Planned sex does not mean you have to be on top (of your game) when it happens.
Passionate sex can occur even If one of you is hornier than the other. Feel free to take a more passive role. The important thing is that your both bringing pleasure to each other
4) Sex doesn’t have to be the most exciting every time.
Save some fireworks for a rainy day man.
5) Planning when you’re going to have sex does not mean planning what are you going to do with your partner.
The more you distance yourself from a scenario, the bigger the chance you have sex full of pleasure and joy. Imperatives are not aperitifs.
6) Don’t obsess about the frequency. Forget about the quantity and focus on quality.
Once you get rid off the social norms on how often you should have sex the sooner you get rid off the sexual anxiety.
7) Active sexual desire is not a precondition of sexual arousal. Motivation is.
Crafting a schedule is like foreplay. The anticipation of coitus is like having sex with the future. Our ability to use our brains to voluntary evolve our sexual instincts is bigger than we think.
8) Your relationship will have it’s ups and downs, no matter who is up and who is down.
There will be phases when both of you are not sexually driven. Perhaps your both preoccupied with other things in your complex life. Even If your sex life is stable, it’s not as bungee jumping as it was in the first couple of months. The idea of a fun long-term gay relationship is more of a commercial concept and a reality. Learn to plan in advance.
9) Plan sexual activities that do not include penetration.
This might be a shocker to many, but passionate sex can happen without penetration. Drooling, cuddling, a spontaneous blow-job, mutual masturbation, nipple play, …the list goes on. Sex doesn’t ehave to include orgasm. If you are both stimulated and satisfied, why not call it sex. If you are doing yoga on the floor while your stud is reading a book in bed then smile and call it a sexual experience.