Embrace YOUR 5 Core Human Needs

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You and I are built upon the manifestation of a kindred spirit fostered by a desire to do what matters, make a difference, share our story. To improve the quality of life one simple act at a time. To be pragmatic yet whimsical every day. To embrace our diversity, foster social inclusion and have fun along the way!Deep down inside you know that you and others like you have the capacity to build a life that matters, to develop the right kind of personal and professional relationships you deserve. - Dan Trepanier

It’s about doing what it takes to live life on your own terms and the terms of those near and dear to you — to be a doer, a giver, a creator, a leader, a mentor, a collaborator and a bit of a challenger of the status quo along the way.

YOU and I need to grow in mind, body and spirit. To feel significant and contribute to life's quality. To belong and connect with others.

"We are all built upon the Five Core Human Needs, which is something deep we all have in common." - Dan Trepanier

The means by which you fulfill needs are limitless. Conscious and subconscious behaviour drives your desire to meet your needs.

  • The need to GROW in mind, body and spirit. 
  • The need to feel SIGNIFICANT and CONTRIBUTE. To do what matters and make a difference. A validation that you that you are appreciated.
  • The need for CONNECTION and BELONGING. We belong when we connect with each other

“Life is an ongoing process of choosing between safety.  Out of fear and need for defense and risk. For the sake of progress and growth"  -Maslow 

I want you to contemplate these five power questions over the coming days. The ask yourself IS THERE A VOID SOMEWHERE and WHAT CAN I DO TO FILL THAT VOID? 

  1. What can/are you do/doing to develop your mind, body or spirit today/this week? [GROWTH]
  2. Did you freely and authentically express to others something positive that has significant meaning in your life today?  [SIGNIFICANCE]
  3. Did you contribute TIME, TALENT or TREASURE to someone in need today? [CONTRIBUTION]
  4. Do you feel connected to persons, places or things whereby safety, honesty and expression are real?
  5. Do you have a grounded sense of belonging, as an equal

Happiness is fostered by a daily NEED for Growth, Significance, Contribution, Connection and Belonging, in a resourceful and positive way - Dan Trepanier

"If we aren’t growing, we’re dying" - Tony Robbins.

We all have a need to continually grow and contribute beyond ourselves in a meaningful way

  • What happens if you aren’t growing? What purpose do you have if you cease to grow as a person?
  • If you don’t grow, how can you expect to find significance, make a contribution, connect with someone on a meaningful level?
  • Make personal growth a part of your daily routine

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“A life isn't significant except for its impact on other lives.” - Jackie Robinson

Having or Expressing a Meaning

The need to feel important, needed and special is the first element. This fuels our sense of direction and achievement and manifest itself several ways.

One man’s road to significance leads him to shop until he drops. Yet another man’s path takes him to a local youth hostel to volunteer and support others every weekend.

One guy feels significance flashing his money around at a club. In contrast his buddy escorts a drunk patron home.  Two friends with different actions both fulfilling a need for significance.

“When you cease to make a contribution you die” – Eleanor Roosevelt

We will never become our ideal self without a profound sense of contribution.

  • What is life without contribution?
  • Can you imagine your life without the feeling of giving, caring for or protecting?
  • Can you imagine not receiving the gift of contribution?

“Deep down inside you know that you and others like you have the capacity to build a life that matters.  To develop the right kind of personal and professional relationships you deserve.” – Dan Trepanier

Can you name or describe a feeling better than cuddling up to your significant other or beloved pet?  The closeness and connection you share? Or the belly ache you get after so much laughter with friends who just ‘get’ you? 

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10 Wonderful Benefits From Our Mentoring Relationship

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“There’s no place like home” - The Wizard of OZ

The need to belong is primal. When you belong to a something, you feel that sense that your part of something bigger. That belief your connected.

Where do you get your sense of belonging? Is it through religion, family, community, relationships, friends, online?

The subject of basic human needs and emotions is rich with perspective. Take the time to explore what a few experts in the field are saying.

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Belonging | Definition of Belonging by Merriam-Webster

Define belonging: possession—belonging in a sentence.
 

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All of us want to be seen, heard and understood. We especially want this from our partners. We want our partners to say, Yes, I am listening. Yes, I get it. Yes, I understand your pain. I’m sorry it hurts, and I am here. We want our partners to be interested in and to care about what’s happening inside our hearts.
Satisfy Your Five Core Human Needs

Action Questions on 5 Core Human Needs

 

I want you to contemplate these five power questions over the coming days. The ask yourself IS THERE A VOID SOMEWHERE and WHAT CAN I DO TO FILL THAT VOID? 

 

What can/are you do/doing to develop your mind, body or spirit today/this week?

 

Did you freely and authentically express to others something positive that has significant meaning in your life today?

 

Did you contribute TIME, TALENT or TREASURE to someone in need today?

 

Do you feel connected to persons, places or things whereby safety, honesty and expression are real?

 

Do you have a grounded sense of belonging, as an equal

 

Did you know that your life is an hourglass that measures the amount of time you spent embracing your core human needs?
Sometimes, personal growth means seizing the right moment to read the right article. Take a few minutes to read the one below and connect with yourself.

To create, to give, to connect, to belong and to find meaning is all crucial for building the life that matters. You know what you can do to contribute to others today? Share this article and help someone learn how to embrace their basic human needs.

Dan Trepanier

Certified , Personal Wellness Trainer