10 Powerful Assumptions About YOU
Let's pre-suppose that these 10 assumptions are beliefs that influence how you live and work on your own terms
- The way you see the world is your reality but not necessarily reality itself
- As a person YOU work perfectly
- All the resources you need are already within you waiting to be discovered
- The type of response you get from others is because of the meaning THEY attach to your communication
- You cannot not communicate
- Every behaviour serves a purpose
- There is no failure, only feedback and learnings
- Your mind and body are interconnected
- What's possible for someone else is certainly possible for YOU
- The person or element with the most flexibility will have the most influence
Of the 10 items listed in this lesson which one or two ‘stand out for you’ and what new habit or routine could you develop over the next 21 days? SHARE your answer in the comments section below
1. The way you see the world is your reality but not necessarily reality itself
After all what is reality? You respond to YOUR reality and typically not to someone else. Your reality is based on your interpretations of people, places and things. There billions of people, places and things so therefore there are billions of subjective realities. Your neighbours reality is not necessarily the same reality as yours. You do not respond to reality but rather to your internalized map of reality.
2. As a Person You Work Perfectly
You are NOT broken. All behaviour (interpreted as positive or negative) has a structure and serves a purpose. When you understand the structure you can change your results into something more desirable. You function perfectly - warts and all to serve a conscious or subconscious outcome. I believe you make the best choices available at any given time given the resources you have. When you lack the appropriate resources you make compromising and compensating behaviours.
3. All the resources you need are already within you waiting to be discovered
Resources are your internal responses and external behaviours needed to get a desired result. A crappy attitude is a resource and so is a positive one. This belief opens up a world of possibilities for you.
4. The type of response you get from others is because of the meaning THEY attach to your communication
If someone misunderstands you don't assume there is something wrong with them. "It" is what it is. Your verbal and non-verbal behaviour triggers responses in others -- good, bad or indifferent.
It's not only about a good command of language and delivery (although often that helps). Its more often than not about helping someone deliver to you, the desired response to what you just communicated. Some would argue that your expectations and intent vibrate to the other person and create a sixth sense perception in other person. This factor could influence their response.
5. You cannot not communicate
Your silences also sends a message. What you don't say or do also has meaning -- just be away of that! You are communicating.
6. Every behaviour serves a purpose
Your behavior is always valuable somewhere at some time. Anger is useful when someone is under attack. Anger out of context may be an attempt to get people to understand. It may not however be useful or gain the desired result.
7. There is no failure, only feedback and learnings
There is a silver lining to every situation and life is about contrast. Without loss you would not know about gain. Light is only perceived compared to darkness - You get my point. Every result gives you information.
8 Your mind and body are interconnected
Each affects the other. Our eye patterns reveal our internal sensory processing. Other behavioral cues are speech, tempo and breathing rate. Just as behavioral cues in the body reflect the functioning of our mind, so accessing a particular behavioral cue can affect functioning of our mind. For example slumping in your chair can make you feel tired.
9. What's possible for someone else is certainly possible for YOU
Individual skills are a function of the development and sequencing of representational systems. Any skill talent or ability that you have can be broken down into its components and taught to YOU. Assuming you do not have severe physiological or neurological damage. If the way you process information (perceptions and your 'representational systems') is not fully developed this can cause some learning challenges for you.
10. The person or element with the most flexibility will have the most influence
This is the Law of requisite variety from systems theory. This means the person with the most options and behavioral choices will control the system. In any field, the top people in that field are those who have the most variety in their behavior. They have choices of behavior that their colleagues don’t.
Any time you limit your behavioural choices you give others the competitive edge.
The presuppositions I use are based in NLP (What is NLP?). They are not pure truth (what is?), but produce useful results. Beliefs can be self-fulfilling. If we believe someone doesn’t like us, our defensive manner can make this a reality. If we believe we can master a skill, we persevere until we do. https://nlp-mentor.com . These are beliefs that guide YOU and have helped guide me in the development of the my coaching practice.
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